There are times in life when what used to work, no longer does.

You can feel it in your body before your mind catches up.

The habits that once kept you going now drain you.
The roles you once played with ease now feel tight and untrue.
Even your dreams might feel unfamiliar.

This is a developmental threshold.
A moment where one stage of your identity begins to dissolve, and another has not yet fully formed.

In adult development theory, this can mark a shift in your centre of gravity. You’re not failing — you’re evolving.

But thresholds rarely come with clear instructions. They come with discomfort, disorientation, and a subtle invitation to move from control to trust.

You might find yourself trying to reassert old strategies.
Overworking. People pleasing. Overthinking.
Trying to fix what is not broken, but simply outdated.

Or you might numb. Withdraw. Freeze.
This is the nervous system’s way of protecting you when the path ahead is unclear.

And yet, some part of you knows that this isn’t a breakdown. It’s a reorganisation.

The challenge of this season isn’t about doing more.
It’s about becoming more honest.

Honest about your limits.
Honest about your desires.
Honest about the version of you that is ready to be met.

This is not a problem to solve. It’s a process to be lived.

Let this be a season of redefinition.
Let it be okay to not yet know who you’re becoming.
You don’t have to leap. You only have to listen.

Reflection questions:

• What roles or patterns no longer feel aligned with who I am?

• Where am I trying to fix something, when I could be letting something go?

• What might open up if I allowed this threshold to be sacred, not shameful?